5 Communication Mistakes in Pakistani Marriages — A Female Therapist Explains

5 Communication Mistakes in Pakistani Marriages | Relationship Therapy for Couple

 A Pakistani female therapist reveals five common communication mistakes married couples make — and how to rebuild trust, connection, and peace.

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Good marriages are not built on love alone — they thrive on communication.

Yet, most Pakistani couples never learn how to talk to each other.

As a Muslim relationship therapist, I see these same five mistakes in almost every session.

🗣️ 1. Talking to Defend, Not to Understand

Most arguments start with:

“You never listen!”

The goal becomes winning, not understanding.

In therapy, I teach couples the rule of pause — listen to understand, not to reply.

💔 2. Using Silence as Punishment

Many South Asian spouses withdraw emotionally after conflict.

But silence doesn’t heal — it creates emotional distance.

⚖️ 3. Assuming, Not Asking

Cultural shame stops couples from asking: “What do you really need from me?”

Instead, we assume — and those assumptions turn into frustration.

💬 4. Criticizing the Person, Not the Problem

Saying “You’re careless” attacks the identity.

Saying “I felt hurt when…” focuses on the behavior.

🕊️ 5. Avoiding Therapy Until It’s Too Late

In Pakistani culture, couples often see therapy as “the last resort.”

But early therapy prevents years of resentment.